Rant: Spying Family Members of Partners

[cardinalkarp]

Anytime people post relationship problems online one thing generally comes to mind....tacky. Especially if it's aired out to others who know you guys personally.

[wart57]

I don't have twitter or Facebook and the likes, but it seems like if you put something out there - it is fair game.

Sure, and my girlfriend and I talked about this. In the end it's my own fault for not locking my all but unknown twitter account (I obviously wouldn't post things on facebook where it could harm her personally and professionally), but why is there a double standard where she is able to talk to her sister about everything that we do/say? I'm not allowed to talk to my own friends about any details at all about my relationship, but she can talk about everything with her closest confidant?

[expletive] that.

She is a woman, you are a man. That is all.

[Cronos]

Anytime people post relationship problems online one thing generally comes to mind....tacky. Especially if it's aired out to others who know you guys personally.

Granted. My mistake (and most of my being upset) is because I had forgotten that a few months back I had made it public when before it had been locked and I simply forgot it was public. Lesson learned there, for sure. And of course the rest of my anger comes from mainly getting caught with my hand in the proverbial cookie jar, though what was said, in effect, was "My GF did something that made me mad and I'm angry about it. Grr." I don't think that's all too defaming to her nor would it really impact how the two people who follow me on there who know who her in person think or feel about her. Considering what I often see/hear others post on public places about their personal relationship stuff, I thought I was showing a decent amount of restraint.

That said, it sounds like it might be better for you to chalk this relationship up to some valuable experience and then find somebody who isn't so weirdly intimate with their kid sister.

Yeah, this is pretty much where I'm left feeling right now. She has valid reasons of things that happened while growing up for her to be so close to her sister, but that's not a situation I'm comfortable being a part of and I don't think my feelings for my GF make having to deal with that worthwhile. The term that applies here would be "enmeshment", which is never good news.

Plenty of lessons learned here; thanks for the support and advice folks.

[Fat_Bulldog]

Wow.

In my opinion, this is very juvenile. Are you seriously considering throwing away a relationship because your GF has a special bond and relationship with her sister? Stemming from you posting details regarding your relationship online. Your subject line says "spying" - is it really spying when it is online for the world to see?

Good luck in your never-ending search for Ms. Perfect.

[Cronos]

In my opinion, this is very juvenile. Are you seriously considering throwing away a relationship because your GF has a special bond and relationship with her sister?

It's not the only reason.

[Cronos]

In my opinion, this is very juvenile. Are you seriously considering throwing away a relationship because your GF has a special bond and relationship with her sister?

It's not the only reason.

[JL21]

It's not the only reason.

[Freed Roger]

Sneaky Fat Bulldog.

He's testing ya Cronos.

[Fat_Bulldog]

What if with Ms. Next you find an even worse term to label she's involved with than "enmeshment."

[redbirdjazzz]

What if with Ms. Next you find an even worse term to label she's involved with than "enmeshment."

Entrapment?