Nervous over work...

[phins]

There were changes I made to items and I'm more structured than the previous manager. The team is rebelling and going to HR on me. I got written up by my VP w/o even so much as a courtesy meeting to talk about the issues.

On Monday I got my review and was given the best score of my career. I did my previous teams' reviews and my new teams and no onehada score as high as mine. I was feeling great and then I had a rough couple of days and then Friday written up after being out of office on Thursday.

There was feedback given and I accepted it, but the things they were saying about me were not true. I did have a rough week personally and was probably short with people, but this all just seemed excessive to me. Once you get a perception at my company, it doesn't go away.

I was up for promotion next year but that's already been taken off table with this essentially.

Unfortunately, I care a lot and now I feel sick all the time and am having trouble eating and sleeping.

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

Dude, no need for that. If you don't, I hope you work to live, not the other way around. Of course we all want to be good at what we do, but it doesn't define us. Personally, I hate when people ask, "What do you do?" as a conversation starter. Work shouldn't define us, nor should it be able to affect our personal lives, again...imho.

[phins]

Thx AW. I appreciate it.

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

I'd take you out for a couple beers if I were in springfield. It'll all work out, one way or another.

[go birds]

is this a thinly veiled humble brag?

[Radbird]

Sometimes painful assignments - jobs which you wish you had never accepted - can lead to opportunities that wouldn't have been there without going through that ordeal.

For the last 18 months, I have been in the job from hell. By far the worst of my career. Thought it was going to lead to a layoff. Had me questioning everything, wondering whether still had it, had lost it, or if I ever had it at all.

Anyway, I just accepted a new assignment that I would not have qualified for without having this job on my resume and am anxious and excited to begin anew.

So hang in there - perhaps better things await.

[phins]

Posts like that help...this weekend has been tough.

Worst part is just no support from upper management on this deal. There were business explanations for almost all issues.

[sighyoung]

Just wanted to add that I wish you the best, and hope things turn around for you. As AW wrote, no matter how difficult things get at work, please don't equate the job with yourself.