I a cant seem to get anything done anymore. This mostly started when we had the first child 2.3 years ago. Have so many things going on I seem to always get just enough done on one for the time being only to have to switch to another project and get just enough done before something else is calling. I'd love to be able to work on one project start to finish but time never allows. I'm deversifing my farming operation and that's stretched my time and financial resources pretty thin. So I feel like I always have fifty things going on and nothing finished. I know in reality I'm getting alittle done on a lot of things and actually getting a lot done but nothing gets finished and its driving me crazy. Before I got married and had kids I'd work on projects late into the night and got thing done, usually quite awhile before they needed done. Now it's hard to work late due to the kids or get back to work after quiting to help get the kids feed and ready for be. It's almost to the point I don't really feel like myself anymore. I rarely if ever have time to do activities that I used to enjoy and refreshed me.
Any tips on dealing with this I know I'm not the only one. I used to feel like I had it all together now not so much. I know it's been complicated by the fact that money is pretty tight right now but that's not all of it.
Frustrated
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heyzeus
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Re: Frustrated
Probably delete your GRB account.
Just kidding, please don't do that.
I really do think, though, that my connectedness to the computer or smartphone prevents me from getting so many things done (social interactions, work, reading books, family time).
Just kidding, please don't do that.
I really do think, though, that my connectedness to the computer or smartphone prevents me from getting so many things done (social interactions, work, reading books, family time).
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StL Dan
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Re: Frustrated
+1kheyzeus wrote:Probably delete your GRB account.
Just kidding, please don't do that.
I really do think, though, that my connectedness to the computer or smartphone prevents me from getting so many things done (social interactions, work, reading books, family time).
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Jocephus
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Re: Frustrated
i think the only thing i can say is dont beat yerself up. none of my business, but have you expressed this to your spouse, family member, close friend? may help just telling someone you trust.
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Fat_Bulldog
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Re: Frustrated
I'd say maybe you need to eliminate some of these projects and focus your time on being with your family. Just sayin'
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Socnorb11
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Re: Frustrated
+++Fat_Bulldog wrote:I'd say maybe you need to eliminate some of these projects and focus your time on being with your family. Just sayin'
Life is too short. Keep it simple.
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Diddy
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Re: Frustrated
Problem is most of its associated with my job and earning a living. I would have put this in rants to start with but I was more looking for advice then just ranting.
I guess a lot of it is also putting more pressure on myself now that I have two kids depending on me and if something goes bad its not just me I have to worry about. I've talked to my wife about it and she can't really understand. I get a since of accomplishment in doing things, I think she does also but having a family and eating dinner together is more important to her then completing a project. I wouldn't ever not want to be a part of my kids life but its a balancing act trying to juggle what's important to her and the kids and what's important to me.
On the business side when things get more set up it'll be great, I think. But it's taking a lot more time and a lot more money to get where I want it to be, and thought it would be by now. I knew they would take money but I also didn't expect to have only raise two successful crops the out of the last seven we've put out, so I haven't had near the income I expected to.
Smart phones are good and bad I probably waste more time in it then I realize but I'm able to save a lot if time researching on it that saves me time also.
I guess a lot of it is also putting more pressure on myself now that I have two kids depending on me and if something goes bad its not just me I have to worry about. I've talked to my wife about it and she can't really understand. I get a since of accomplishment in doing things, I think she does also but having a family and eating dinner together is more important to her then completing a project. I wouldn't ever not want to be a part of my kids life but its a balancing act trying to juggle what's important to her and the kids and what's important to me.
On the business side when things get more set up it'll be great, I think. But it's taking a lot more time and a lot more money to get where I want it to be, and thought it would be by now. I knew they would take money but I also didn't expect to have only raise two successful crops the out of the last seven we've put out, so I haven't had near the income I expected to.
Smart phones are good and bad I probably waste more time in it then I realize but I'm able to save a lot if time researching on it that saves me time also.
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mikechamp
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Re: Frustrated
Do you have a mentor? As a fellow entrepreneur, I can say they are helpful.
Also, I find it helps to have living inspirations. One of my inspirations is my business partner, who has more projects going on than I could possibly handle, and he's 61 years old. Unlike you (or me), he doesn't have 2 little ones at home, but also unlike you he is jetting around the country to manage all of them. I sometimes think to myself, if he has the stamina/strength to do all these things, I should too... given I'm a full generation younger than he is.
Fortunately for me, I don't need much sleep, so I can balance work and home life by delegating some of my work to the overnight hours. But since you're farming, that's often hard to do. (Harvest aside.)
Also, I find it helps to have living inspirations. One of my inspirations is my business partner, who has more projects going on than I could possibly handle, and he's 61 years old. Unlike you (or me), he doesn't have 2 little ones at home, but also unlike you he is jetting around the country to manage all of them. I sometimes think to myself, if he has the stamina/strength to do all these things, I should too... given I'm a full generation younger than he is.
Fortunately for me, I don't need much sleep, so I can balance work and home life by delegating some of my work to the overnight hours. But since you're farming, that's often hard to do. (Harvest aside.)
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Jocephus
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Re: Frustrated
what do they call those people who don't need sleep? successful - jim gaffigan
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Diddy
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I use to not require much sleep then I had kids. I sleep more now because ill go to bed early
Just because the kids are down, if they go down early. Of course it's never uninterrupted sleep.
I got to do a project that's been on my list for two years this weekend. Still have a million things that need done but its amazing how much better I feel crossing something off my list.
Just because the kids are down, if they go down early. Of course it's never uninterrupted sleep.
I got to do a project that's been on my list for two years this weekend. Still have a million things that need done but its amazing how much better I feel crossing something off my list.