I am the worst [expletive] ever

[sighyoung]

When one of his parents die instead of going to the funeral you should go to NOLA. Then you'd really be a [expletive].

Better yet, have a NOLA funeral.

[IMADreamer]

Ouch Doc, ouch.

[docellis]

Money worries are never fun. They lead to stress, and then to words you wish you hadn't said. (I'm speaking about myself and my own regrets here.)

At the same time, if you can, take some kind of trip that you can afford--maybe not New Orleans, but some place nice where you can budget it out in advance so you won't feel stressed about it. You'll remember the trip for years and years.

I'm sending my son to China for two weeks, beginning on Wednesday. Financially, it's not the best time to do so, and we're scrimping, but he really needs to get out and see the world. Whatever happens, he'll remember that trip.

Good luck with everything, doc.

It isn't really the money, exactly. Part of it would be money - going to NOLA would be more expensive (3 or 4x as much as going to South Carolina) but the other part would be coordinating time off work etc. We don't "go on vacation" every year. Maybe every other year. So me feeling pretty certain that they will die within 2 years means we can't go to NOLA until after they die.

It was the worst. After I said that, his face turned really red, he grabbed a beer and went outside for a good chunk of time.

If someone said the exact same thing to me (and I knew it was likely true) I'd have bawled like a baby. It was maybe the rudest and harshest thing I have ever said.

They are in terrible health though, mom is in hospice and dad isn't capable of taking care of himself without her. Both are severe diabetics with tons of other health issues and are around 80.

I am sure he knows it is true, but hearing it like that had to be incredibly awful.

But he came back inside shortly after I posted this thread and it wasn't mentioned. Not sure if I should apologize or just pretend it never happened.

[slide_into_first]

Personally, I would tell him you surprised yourself at how emotional the subject made you and you were not intending to be so blunt and thoughtless, but you worry a lot about what is to become of his parents.

[cardsfansince82]

Personally, I would tell him you surprised yourself at how emotional the subject made you and you were not intending to be so blunt and thoughtless, but you worry a lot about what is to become of his parents.

Excellent advice.

[The Third Man]

Money worries are never fun. They lead to stress, and then to words you wish you hadn't said. (I'm speaking about myself and my own regrets here.)

At the same time, if you can, take some kind of trip that you can afford--maybe not New Orleans, but some place nice where you can budget it out in advance so you won't feel stressed about it. You'll remember the trip for years and years.

I'm sending my son to China for two weeks, beginning on Wednesday. Financially, it's not the best time to do so, and we're scrimping, but he really needs to get out and see the world. Whatever happens, he'll remember that trip.

Good luck with everything, doc.

Can you adopt me and send me to China?

[Socnorb11]

Yeah, it's hard to put a humorous, snarky spin on this.......... but we all make mistakes, doc.

A heartfelt apology would be excellent, I think.

[sighyoung]

Personally, I would tell him you surprised yourself at how emotional the subject made you and you were not intending to be so blunt and thoughtless, but you worry a lot about what is to become of his parents.

Excellent advice.

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[JackofDiamonds]

Personally, I would tell him you surprised yourself at how emotional the subject made you and you were not intending to be so blunt and thoughtless, but you worry a lot about what is to become of his parents.

Excellent advice.

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Then have sex with him.

[KyCardinalFan]

Personally, I would tell him you surprised yourself at how emotional the subject made you and you were not intending to be so blunt and thoughtless, but you worry a lot about what is to become of his parents.

Excellent advice.

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