I'm completely exhausted with everything

[Radbird]

I am not making light of this. I've been there. We all have.

When I'm there I am so glad I have something as seemingly meaningless as my fiddle to help me get out.

I'm not saying everyone needs to do music, just something you really like to do. Helps to forget about the crap for awhile.

I do play bass guitar and I've been slacking off a bit lately because my hands are giving me some trouble but I agree that losing myself in music is a great way to unwind.

I really need to get my dad’s instruments out - 2 guitars, a banjo, a tenor harp (looks just like a banjo but all wood) and a tenor guitar. Something I had planned to focus on in retirement. I have hand issues too (Dupuytren's contracture) but I’m sure there are still simple things I could learn - not looking to play for anyone but myself. I’m such a dumbass and need to get over whatever is preventing me from doing this.

[IMADreamer]

Here is an example how BS is just unavoidable. I hired this guy to help at my side business and the job is cake. I need him to sandblast parts, and pack things for shipping. Other than that I don't give a [expletive] what he does as long as those two things are done he can watch netflix all day for all I care. He can't even do that. Then he starts no showing. Then suddenly every time I have a dr appointment or somewhere I need to be, he does too. This leaves the other guy I've hired to kind of do everything. He really doesn't have time because he's kind of my lead fabricator.

I've been pretty flexible but last week I really needed the new guy to be there because we were getting a load of steel in and it would have to be unloaded with the forklift. To back up a bit I have pneumonia right now and did a short stint in the hospital last week. My fabricator had to take his wife to her cancer doctor, which we had planned out a good six weeks in advance. At 8am in my hospital bed I get a call and I see who it's from. Right away I know this mother [expletive] is calling out sick. So I don't answer, So since I didn't answer jackass goes to work then proceeds to call me six times. Finally in the hospital I answer. He is putting on his best I'm sick act and I kind of unloaded on him. I said the one day I really need you and you can't be here. I told him to go home and he better have a doctors note when he gets back.

Well the next day his mom shows up, let me rewind a bit again, this guy 46 years old and his mom shows up to defend him. She is telling me how sick he is and he can't even get out of bed. I look outside and he's in the passenger seat of the F'n car. I ask if he's so sick in bed why is he right there? She says well the bank won't cash his check without him being there. Anyway he was so sick he was posting all over facebook that he was fishing and at the bar this weekend.

Flash forward to today, no note from the doctor but he tells me how sick he is that he couldn't get into the doctor, which is a lie. So I told him to go home and take the day to decide if he wants to work here any more because I'm fed up.

Again, the [expletive] is just unavoidable. This guy has an easy job, gets paid decent, and yet I still have to deal with his drama and [expletive] daily. Ok, sorry no one is ready that wall of [expletive]. I'm just tired of everything. Literally everything is on hard mode and I'm tired of it.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

Fire his ass. Nobody needs that much aggravation.

[CardsofSTL]

Here is an example how BS is just unavoidable. I hired this guy to help at my side business and the job is cake. I need him to sandblast parts, and pack things for shipping. Other than that I don't give a [expletive] what he does as long as those two things are done he can watch netflix all day for all I care. He can't even do that. Then he starts no showing. Then suddenly every time I have a dr appointment or somewhere I need to be, he does too. This leaves the other guy I've hired to kind of do everything. He really doesn't have time because he's kind of my lead fabricator.

I've been pretty flexible but last week I really needed the new guy to be there because we were getting a load of steel in and it would have to be unloaded with the forklift. To back up a bit I have pneumonia right now and did a short stint in the hospital last week. My fabricator had to take his wife to her cancer doctor, which we had planned out a good six weeks in advance. At 8am in my hospital bed I get a call and I see who it's from. Right away I know this mother [expletive] is calling out sick. So I don't answer, So since I didn't answer jackass goes to work then proceeds to call me six times. Finally in the hospital I answer. He is putting on his best I'm sick act and I kind of unloaded on him. I said the one day I really need you and you can't be here. I told him to go home and he better have a doctors note when he gets back.

Well the next day his mom shows up, let me rewind a bit again, this guy 46 years old and his mom shows up to defend him. She is telling me how sick he is and he can't even get out of bed. I look outside and he's in the passenger seat of the F'n car. I ask if he's so sick in bed why is he right there? She says well the bank won't cash his check without him being there. Anyway he was so sick he was posting all over facebook that he was fishing and at the bar this weekend.

Flash forward to today, no note from the doctor but he tells me how sick he is that he couldn't get into the doctor, which is a lie. So I told him to go home and take the day to decide if he wants to work here any more because I'm fed up.

Again, the [expletive] is just unavoidable. This guy has an easy job, gets paid decent, and yet I still have to deal with his drama and [expletive] daily. Ok, sorry no one is ready that wall of [expletive]. I'm just tired of everything. Literally everything is on hard mode and I'm tired of it.

aww he had a mommy note.

Fire the dbag.

[CardsofSTL]

Fire his ass. Nobody needs that much aggravation.

Don't hate.

But yeah; tell him to gather up his [expletive]; and get the [expletive] out.

[G. Keenan]

There is a category of people out there who really do not give a [expletive]. I'm always amazed by how much effort they put into avoiding work while staying just enough in their employer's good graces not to get fired. Seems easier to me to just actually do the work but what do I know.

[IMADreamer]

There is a category of people out there who really do not give a [expletive]. I'm always amazed by how much effort they put into avoiding work while staying just enough in their employer's good graces not to get fired. Seems easier to me to just actually do the work but what do I know.

It seems like that's a rather large group too. I swear this guy puts more effort getting out of work.

Anyway he gone. The old fella that helps me goes "nothing of value was lost." lol I told him I was sorry if it puts a little more on him and he said "don't worry about me. I'll find someone else to help out. It just may take a bit.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

I told my boys growing up: when you get a job if you 1. show up five minutes early clean and ready to work, 2. do what you are asked to do and 3. don't make them ask you twice - if you do those three things, you're better than 95% of the other help and most employers will consider you invaluable.

They've told me more than once I was right.

[IMADreamer]

I'm bumping this because it's still true. Maybe worse. Gas prices are insane, food is insane, concerts, hotels, whatever it's all nuts.

Then there is this [expletive]. I plant beans with a John Deere 8335RT and today in the middle of the field it just decided there was an "engine fault" and just put itself in park and idled down. So I check for all the obvious, leaks, broken parts, etc. Nothing. The tractor idles fine and no other lights are on. So I call up the dealer. The service manager says we can have someone out tomorrow and just so you know we now charge on service calls from when they leave the shop to when they get back and the rate is $200 an hour. I pause for a minute because I don't want to cuss him out and I say "well [expletive] it I'll just trade the [expletive] off for a Case IH." and hang up.

About 30 seconds later my phone rings and it's the Service managers boss who says "we can work something out, I'll have a guy out there in about an hour." After some back and forth I said ok. The guy came, reset the computer with his computer and everything was fine.

To be clear it's a half hour drive from the dealer to the farm, and back. So there's 200 bucks, and it's a minimum hour so that's another 200 bucks. For 5 minutes to plug the damn thing in to the tractor and hit a button.

This is our whole society though. Every company has figured out how to [expletive] ass in the maximum possible way. When can we start burning this [expletive] to the ground?

[mikechamp]

I'm kind of surprised they couldn't connect to the tractor wirelessly and just reset the computer remotely.

Maybe a newer tractor could do that? I don't know how old your current tractor is, but it doesn't sound too old.