"Friends" who seem to delight in your misfortune

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Re: "Friends" who seem to delight in your misfortune

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planet pujolsian wrote:
stretch wrote:
planet pujolsian wrote:Plus, I think I described it the wrong way, I didn't necessarily mean betraying confidence, just the general feeling you get that someone is secretly pleased by your misfortune.
Is this friend a woman? Are you a woman?

(ducks)

Just kidding. Sort of.
Actually, it's a guy. I guess I don't understand your point. Is this a women are catty reference?
Yeah. Bad joke. Sorry.

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That reminds me of a friend of mine that seems to think I'm constantly sitting at home watching porn and doesn't hesitate to tell everyone. :shock:

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Hudler wrote:That reminds me of a friend of mine that seems to think I'm constantly sitting at home watching porn and doesn't hesitate to tell everyone. :shock:
You mean sitting home watching porn is a bad thing? Damn i gotta get a life then!!!!!

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Re: "Friends" who seem to delight in your misfortune

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pop_haines wrote:
That's an awful feeling: to realize that there are people who revel in
your misfortune; people who are supposed to have your back. It all
boils down to jealousy, I suppose.

Well, you can't really change their outlook, which is frankly unhealthy.

I usually ignore 'em or at least keep them at arm's length.
I've been guilty of this in the past, to be totally honest. It more than likely is jealousy and selfishness on their part about something(or someone) that you had in the past and don't any longer. Since they didn't have it or might even feel like they can't have it in the first place, this puts you back on even level with them, so it almost makes them feel a temporary boost for themselves. Indicative of self-esteem issues.

Just trying to explain why they might act this way, I'm not saying that they're right to do it at all. As I said, it's selfish and indicative of jealousy and other issues they might have(though more with themselves then with you).

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