Wedding No-shows

[Swatcat27]

So, I'm sitting down & looking at our post-wedding damage to our bank account and I just cant believe like 20 ppl RSVP'd that they were coming & just didnt show up. We had small wedding of around 90, so that is a big deal. Hold on, my wife had sent out 'the save the date' reminders as well. So, we have a seated dinner and the charge per person was something ridiculous and I havent heard from 75% of the no-shows, so I dont know whatever happened to showing a little bit of courtesy. Oh, the best part, some of my no-show friends had thrown a fit that they didnt get their ethnic food, so i had gone out of my way to cater from outside, adding an extra tab.

Do I cut ties with all these a$$es (too late in some instances) ? Have you ever done something like this ?

[JCShutout]

Why would people not show up to free food and dancing?

...

uh, I mean, how can they not show up for their friends?

[Michael]

Wow, is this common?

[cardinalkarp]

I would be pissed and I would be giving my "friends" a call. I mean I could understand a few no shows but 20 out of 90 is a big deal. Not only that they asked you for specific food and then no showed I'd be REALLY pissed.

[The Green Miles]

I'm sorry I didn't call swatcat. I was thinking I'd have an off day, but I played. I went 0 for 4 but had two rbi's. I sincerely apologize for myself, my wife Courtney and my daughter Nicole.

November 12, 2004 was declared 'Aaron Miles' day in my hometown of Antioch, California.

[Swatcat27]

I would be pissed and I would be giving my "friends" a call. I mean I could understand a few no shows but 20 out of 90 is a big deal. Not only that they asked you for specific food and then no showed I'd be REALLY pissed.

Yeah, that's 22% no-shows. So, I dig into it & come up with the splits.
Apparently, 3 were in a rear-end collision that morning...So, I understand that part.
2 of my wife's friends showed up at the ceremony in a tee & beaten jeans. So they ran off coz the rest were in black tie. I wouldn't have cared, but I understood that too.
My boss at work didnt show up, so thats 2 - I am so pissed about that ( hence all the posting in GRB these past few days to display my resentment).
The rest of the folks is just inexplicable, especially with the ethnic food thing.

On the brighter side, we had 12 1.5L Grey Gooses & not many to share....

[cardinalkarp]

2 of my wife's friends showed up at the ceremony in a tee & beaten jeans. So they ran off coz the rest were in black tie. I wouldn't have cared, but I understood that too.
My boss at work didnt show up, so thats 2 - I am so pissed about that ( hence all the posting in GRB these past few days to display my resentment).

Who shows up to a wedding in jeans and a t-shirt to begin with?
That's pretty crappy of your boss to no show, especially if you have/had a good relationship w/ him or her. It definitely won't be as good now. It wouldn't be a big deal if he wouldn't have said he would come, then pull a no show.

[mikechamp]

2 of my wife's friends showed up at the ceremony in a tee & beaten jeans. So they ran off coz the rest were in black tie. I wouldn't have cared, but I understood that too.
My boss at work didnt show up, so thats 2 - I am so pissed about that ( hence all the posting in GRB these past few days to display my resentment).

Who shows up to a wedding in jeans and a t-shirt to begin with?

My thoughts exactly. Have they never been to a wedding..... or seen one in a TV show or movie?

I mean, if it was on a beach, I could see people wearing shorts and a Hawaiian shirt or something, but I have a feeling this didn't take place on a beach.

[Molly]

swatcat: congrats on the nuptials. I have always heard, when planning a wedding, count on 25% no-shows which is about what you had. Rude to say the least.

What I think is equally rude are the people who, without a very good reason, skip the actual wedding ceremony but make darn sure to attend the reception for the free food/alcohol.

[jim]

I know the card with the check in it is supposed to be a gift - and in a way it is because it really is a sincere attempt at a congratulations to the couple - but I almost view it at least as much as a ticket to the show. If I bought the ticket (RSVP), I pay the price.

If I ever could not make something like that, I'd still send the card with the money.

I think it's pretty crummy. If they aren't close friends, I'd cut my ties. I think that's pretty horse do-do.