My Roommate is a Prick

[haltz]

Who cares if they're having sex or making out or holding hands? If someone doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship, that's that. It's just up to people to just be clear about these things. People make this crap so unnecessarily complicated.

[Simbagal23]

Who cares if they're having sex or making out or holding hands? If someone doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship, that's that. It's just up to people to just be clear about these things. People make this crap so unnecessarily complicated.

Exactly.

It sounds like he wanted the "friends with benefits" deal, while she wanted more.....he probably sent mixed signals with all of the calls, text messaging, hanging out. He made himself clear and they'll both move on. No harm, no foul......

[Popeye_Card]

Who cares if they're having sex or making out or holding hands? If someone doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship, that's that. It's just up to people to just be clear about these things. People make this crap so unnecessarily complicated.

Exactly.

It sounds like he wanted the "friends with benefits" deal, while she wanted more.....he probably sent mixed signals with all of the calls, text messaging, hanging out. He made himself clear and they'll both move on. No harm, no foul......

That's my diagnosis as well.

I just think it sounds kinda silly if the sex was the deciding factor between girlfriend vs. non-girlfriend. That's a bit shallow. You either want a girlfriend, or you don't.

[thrill]

He actually sounds like a fairly decent guy. He didn't handle it perfectly, but all he wants is some steady tail. At least he didn't do something really shady like cheat on her until she was going to give it up.

[sighyoung]

Ah, I guess they were just two ships passing in the night.

A friend of mine had a term for the kind of relationship your roommate wanted: f*ck buddies. Your roommate wanted a f*ck buddy, not a girlfriend. She didn't want to be a f*ck buddy. End of story.

[Bo Hart]

A friend of mine had a term for the kind of relationship your roommate wanted: f*ck buddies. Your roommate wanted a f*ck buddy, not a girlfriend. She didn't want to be a f*ck buddy. End of story.

I think I'm giving you guys the wrong impression. I want to clarify a few things:

- I DO NOT have any problem at all with "friends with benefits" for "f*ck buddies." None. I don't think it's shallow, I don't think it makes you a prick for being with someone like that (I guess I could see how that "sex slave" comment in the first post could contradict that, but it's within a 'girlfriend' context).

- I DO NOT think he is an [expletive] or a prick anymore. Like I said, I thought the way he handled it was really respectful / commendable. He was blunt and honest about it, something that it often-times hard to do.


Popeye summarized how I feel, though:

That's my diagnosis as well.

I just think it sounds kinda silly if the sex was the deciding factor between girlfriend vs. non-girlfriend. That's a bit shallow. You either want a girlfriend, or you don't.

I mentioned in the first post, he made it clear that he wanted a girlfriend for a long time.


This is getting really hard to argue, because I'm talking about two different people:
- my roommate after last night; seeking: friends with benefits.
- my roommate, prior to last night; seeking: a girlfriend.

He didn't go through a change at all -- I did. I just mis-judged him. But if I continue debating any points or whatever, lets keep the latter 'instance' of him in mind.

[cardinalkarp]

What it sounds like is he didn't understand what it takes to be in a relationship and once he found out he bailed.

[Popeye_Card]

What it sounds like is he didn't understand what it takes to be in a relationship and once he found out he bailed.

So you're saying that he didn't really want to buy the cow--he just wanted the sex for free?

[haltz]

What it sounds like is he didn't understand what it takes to be in a relationship and once he found out he bailed.

Or he just didn't want to be in that kind of relationship because he already was well aware.

Kyle, I think I missed your second post in the thread when I first posted.

[cardinalkarp]

What it sounds like is he didn't understand what it takes to be in a relationship and once he found out he bailed.

Or he just didn't want to be in that kind of relationship because he already was well aware.

Kyle, I think I missed your second post in the thread when I first posted.

The original post said that the guy wanted a girlfriend.