G. Keenan wrote: Frankly, as much as I've complained about him overstaying his welcome, he seems to be the one more aware that he did that. She wanted him to sleep here last night but he refused, so she went over to his place.
I don't think bringing it up is necessarily the best approach. I had a long conversation with a mutual friend last night who is very perceptive about my roommate and always has been. My roommate does not like people to directly confront her with things. The results are rarely good. Another thing is that my roommate is usually drunk at the times when we could discuss these issues and doing so in that state would be pointless. Also, confronting her, I know from past experiences, would give her ammunition to be passive aggressive with me. I know that sounds like crazy thinking on my part, but it's a pattern that has repeated itself many times in the 2 years that I've known her. I will be moving out of this apartment in four months no matter what so all of that doesn't really seem worth it.
It kind of sounds like maybe talking to
him might be the better approach - especially if it becomes unbearable. I'd wait for one of the times where he is there and she is not. Something like, "Look, I can understand your relationship is developing, but I live here too, so I'd appreciate you guys splitting time between your places. I know you want to spend time together, however I think she should
actually be here rather than you just hanging out. And give me my keys. Curse the Red Sox. I'm glad we had this talk. Now get out."
