Suicide is not painless

[Radbird]

My wife still gets the weekly paper from her hometown in northern Wisco. She was stunned to see that her best friend from high school passed away. After some googling, she found that it was a suicide. 2 years after her husband committed suicide. And they have 3 kids - all in their 20's, but still. These folks were only in their 50's. My wife stayed close to her until about 10 years ago when apparently marital problems began and we stopped hearing from her. Everytime we are in Wisconsin, my wife says "I should really call Wendy and reconnect". But she didn't, and now is riddled with guilt ("maybe she just needed a friend; if only I had picked up the phone; yada, yada"). I told her the phone lines run both directions, and that she didn't cut off contact - Wendy did. We also found some blogs that her kids have. Heart rending anguish over the loss of both parents by their own hands in less than 2 years.

I don't care how bad my life seemingly is. I don't see how I could ever do that to my kid and other loved ones. I know that I'm judging someone without knowing all the circumstances, but I feel more anger than grief over this.

Just had to vent. Sorry.

[thrill]

I'm sorry to hear that, Rad. I hope your wife is ok.

[Sutter'sBeard]

I've had two aunts, one uncle, and a cousin take that route out. My cousin was 25 and the 1st, then it kind of started a painful chain reaction. Genetic depression is a [expletive].

[Michael]

My wife's bother committed suicide about 10 years ago and her family hasn't remotely recovered. Needless to say she's become a big mental health advocate. It's unfortunate we have a sigma in our society attached to mental illness.

[Cronos]

That's horrible, Rad.

One of the things that got me so impassioned about Psychology and why I want to work with those with Anxiety, Depression, and Mood Disorders is because I can't stand the fact that people hate themselves or their lives so much that they would want to just end them so that they didn't have to hurt anymore. I want to do anything and everything to prevent people from feeling that way.

Sincere condolences to anyone within and without this thread who has had a friend, loved one, or acquaintance either commit suicide or have to deal with someone else who did so.

[phins]

My condolensces...that's just awful to hear.

My little brother's best friend just did this...he was 19 years old, a super popular, great kid, and it was over a girl.

[Sutter'sBeard]

My condolensces...that's just awful to hear.

My little brother's best friend just did this...he was 19 years old, a super popular, great kid, and it was over a girl.

Those are the worst ones and probably the most common among younger males. When I hear about the ones because of a girl, I think about them being saved if someone could just get it in their heads that the getting dumped feeling is just about as bad as you can feel and that, in a couple months, their outlook will be much different.

[stlouie_lipp]

Sorry to hear that....it sucks. We are about a week away from the one-year anniversary of one of my best friends doing that. Still sad about it.