Rant: Flirting

[Cronos]

How are you even supposed to tell if they're flirting with you, anyway? It's impossible for me to tell if they're flirting with me, just being friendly or mocking me viciously.

[haltz]

You can't really know, despite whatever body language stuff people will likely talk about. People are all different and can behave differently when they mean the same thing. Unfortunately there's no one-size-fits-all formula. The best you can do is learn from experience and try your best to have some self-awareness. There's a point where it's patently obvious (with some, not all), but at least for myself I had to look at that in hindsight a few times to figure out what that was. This is probably an aggravating response, so I apologize.

If you think they might be, and that's a good thing, you can always just verbalize it in one form or another. At some point as people get older and more mature, you can start just saying things out loud.

I don't know dude. My game sucks aside from the fact that I stopped caring at some point. If a girl you are interested in is being friendly, see if they want to hang out. You should be able to answer the question soon enough after that.

[jeffbgoofy]

remember, each girl is different. If you have a hunch she might be flirting, talk to her, worst she can say is no, then you won't regret it...

[Sutter'sBeard]

How are you even supposed to tell if they're flirting with you, anyway? It's impossible for me to tell if they're flirting with me, just being friendly or mocking me viciously.

If they touch you, they are flirting, if they touch your junk, they are a slut.

[JCShutout]

remember, each girl is different. If you have a hunch she might be flirting, talk to her, worst she can say is no, then you won't regret it...

That's really it. I've "flirted back" and been wrong a lot, and been right a lot. As haltz said, you just have to stop caring and take risks. Then you can look back and say, "ah, that was more friendly vs. that other time which was more flirty".

As people get older, its just not that embarassing to be shot down. Its just not a big deal.

[tothebeach08]

How are you even supposed to tell if they're flirting with you, anyway? It's impossible for me to tell if they're flirting with me, just being friendly or mocking me viciously.

If they touch you, they are flirting, if they touch your junk, they are a slut.

When done correctly, flirting should be more subtle than "touching your junk". Junk touching usually is accompanied by copious amounts of alcohol (not always a bad thing....).

If they're leaving you wondering if they're flirting, then they're doing it right. It's an art, a gift if you will, much like parting the Red Sea.

[TimeForGuinness]

How are you even supposed to tell if they're flirting with you, anyway? It's impossible for me to tell if they're flirting with me, just being friendly or mocking me viciously.

I used to think the same way, then I just gave up trying to figure it out. I'm just my friendly perverted self...if they start mocking me...then I tell them to go [expletive] a goat.

Seriously man, you gotta learn to say "F-ck It!" to the world...make yourself happy without pinning it to someone else. That right person will come along...but in the mean time, flirt it up man.

Next time you're at a bar, walk up to a hot woman and bite her in the butt...you'd be surprised how often that works, and if it doesn't, you'll have a great story!

[JL21]

Just assume that they all are. You can't take the ride if you don't buy the ticket. If you question whether or not they're flirting, you've immediately eliminated yourself from anything further. That's not a good thing.

[Popeye_Card]

Cronos, I think you missed the real point of doc's thread the other day. Dude was claiming to bat 1.000 with women. That's impossible. Even the Albert Pujols' of the world still get out over 50% of the time, and sometimes they even strike out completely.

Even if you're Izturis, you need to freaking swing the bat when you have two strikes. That pitch coming your way may be a fastball and you can hit it. It may be a slider and you'll swing and miss. But if you keep the bat on your shoulder, you're striking out either way.

As for telling if they're flirting or not, use various touch tests. People generally don't like to touch or be touched by people they aren't interested in. If they're open to it, it's usually a green light. You'll have to find various excuses to be touching them yourself. Good luck.

[JL21]

Cronos, I think you missed the real point of doc's thread the other day. Dude was claiming to bat 1.000 with women. That's impossible. Even the Albert Pujols' of the world still get out over 50% of the time, and sometimes they even strike out completely.

Even if you're Izturis, you need to freaking swing the bat when you have two strikes. That pitch coming your way may be a fastball and you can hit it. It may be a slider and you'll swing and miss. But if you keep the bat on your shoulder, you're striking out either way.

I liken it to a QB who keeps throwing hail mary after hail mary. Eventually, you're going to complete one or two for a touchdown.