Rant: Flirting

[Tambourine Man]

Eh, I'm not trying to give you a hard time. If you find her physically unattractive, then don't mess around. But it'd never hurt to be friends if you have common interests. Every girl I've dated has been a friend of a female friend.

And, IIRC, you thought I was quiet and withdrawn when we all met up at the "Hair of the Pitbull that Ate 4 Kids in North City", and I can definitely be that way. Ya know what's funny? I thought you were quite outgoing and were damn entertaining. Keep your chin up and just be yo'self. I've found that I personally don't say much, unless it's a group of 4 or less. I talk all night then.

[Cronos]

Eh, I'm not trying to give you a hard time. If you find her physically unattractive, then don't mess around. But it'd never hurt to be friends if you have common interests. Every girl I've dated has been a friend of a female friend.

Don't misunderstand, I'm not trying to be combative. I'm literally trying to find out as much info as I possibly can. I'm serious: I'm obviously missing something in all of this that other people just seem to know naturally.

And, IIRC, you thought I was quiet and withdrawn when we all met up at the "Hair of the Pitbull that Ate 4 Kids in North City", and I can definitely be that way. Ya know what's funny? I thought you were quite outgoing and were damn entertaining. Keep your chin up and just be yo'self. I've found that I personally don't say much, unless it's a group of 4 or less. I talk all night then.

I don't remember saying that...I thought you were just talking with people you knew and since you didn't know me you weren't saying much. *shrugs*

The trouble is, I have to force myself to be more outgoing. Or drink. Besides, just because I hadn't met the few of you who were there, I knew you from on here so I felt comfortable, it wasn't like I was talking to complete strangers. Either way, without a good bit of acting and/or alcohol, I can't be that way. Thanks for the compliment and encouragement, though, TM.

I just want to find out that one thing that I'm missing that comes naturally to just about everyone else I know.

[Hudler]

Eh, I'm not trying to give you a hard time. If you find her physically unattractive, then don't mess around. But it'd never hurt to be friends if you have common interests. Every girl I've dated has been a friend of a female friend.

Don't misunderstand, I'm not trying to be combative. I'm literally trying to find out as much info as I possibly can. I'm serious: I'm obviously missing something in all of this that other people just seem to know naturally.

And, IIRC, you thought I was quiet and withdrawn when we all met up at the "Hair of the Pitbull that Ate 4 Kids in North City", and I can definitely be that way. Ya know what's funny? I thought you were quite outgoing and were damn entertaining. Keep your chin up and just be yo'self. I've found that I personally don't say much, unless it's a group of 4 or less. I talk all night then.

I don't remember saying that...I thought you were just talking with people you knew and since you didn't know me you weren't saying much. *shrugs*

The trouble is, I have to force myself to be more outgoing. Or drink. Besides, just because I hadn't met the few of you who were there, I knew you from on here so I felt comfortable, it wasn't like I was talking to complete strangers. Either way, without a good bit of acting and/or alcohol, I can't be that way. Thanks for the compliment and encouragement, though, TM.

I just want to find out that one thing that I'm missing that comes naturally to just about everyone else I know.

Don't try acting,women have really good bulls&!t radar and will spot it a mile away. I've had my best luck by treating women I meet as a friend that I'm not remotely interested in a relationship with.

[Cronos]

Don't try acting,women have really good bulls&!t radar and will spot it a mile away. I've had my best luck by treating women I meet as a friend that I'm not remotely interested in a relationship with.

Really? I'm envious. I'd say that's how I treat most all women I meet, even the ones I'm interested in, and 90% of friends I talk to(including women) tell me that's the worst way to go about it.

Not doubting you, but trying to find out as much as I can: Could you elaborate a little bit?

[Hudler]

Don't try acting,women have really good bulls&!t radar and will spot it a mile away. I've had my best luck by treating women I meet as a friend that I'm not remotely interested in a relationship with.

Really? I'm envious. I'd say that's how I treat most all women I meet, even the ones I'm interested in, and 90% of friends I talk to(including women) tell me that's the worst way to go about it.

Not doubting you, but trying to find out as much as I can: Could you elaborate a little bit?

Just be friendly,not try to be friends right away. It's kinda hard to explain how it happens. I've been told by a few women I've met that they liked that I seemed to not care what people thought of me and that I wasn't trying to impress every woman in the place. It's not the quickest way to pick up the ladies but it will work.

It kind of sounds like me and you have similar personalities. You're not doing anything wrong and one day it will just start happening for you,just don't get desparate because it scares women off faster than anything.

[JCShutout]

Don't try acting,women have really good bulls&!t radar and will spot it a mile away. I've had my best luck by treating women I meet as a friend that I'm not remotely interested in a relationship with.

Really? I'm envious. I'd say that's how I treat most all women I meet, even the ones I'm interested in, and 90% of friends I talk to(including women) tell me that's the worst way to go about it.

Not doubting you, but trying to find out as much as I can: Could you elaborate a little bit?

Just be friendly,not try to be friends right away. It's kinda hard to explain how it happens. I've been told by a few women I've met that they liked that I seemed to not care what people thought of me and that I wasn't trying to impress every woman in the place. It's not the quickest way to pick up the ladies but it will work.

It kind of sounds like me and you have similar personalities. You're not doing anything wrong and one day it will just start happening for you,just don't get desparate because it scares women off faster than anything.

Based on your (Cronos) earlier post talking about friends who would say, "she wanted you", hud is giving good advice. When you are yourself and aren't worried about impressing anyone, you probably do a lot better than you think. Just be yourself and have fun with people. You're what, 24? You've got like 30 years before you have to worry about getting hitched. You're fine.

[tothebeach08]

You definitely have to be yourself, not pretend or act like anything other than who and what you are. If find someone who likes you on the night your "acting", then they don't really like you do they? Never pretend to be someone that your not, even if it's just to get laid. There are plenty of girls out there who are going to like you for you. When you meet someone special, you'll know.

I'm leaving in a little while to meet a friend, and you can bet I'm going to be 100% myself, like it or not, take it or leave it.

[Jocephus]

I'm leaving in a little while to meet a friend, and you can bet I'm going to be 100% myself, like it or not, take it or leave it.

you go girl!!

[Radbird]

Ya know what's funny? I thought you were quite outgoing and were damn entertaining. Keep your chin up and just be yo'self.

I agree. Those were my observations as well, Cronos. Just relax, be yourself, and the rest will take care of itself.

[lukethedrifter]

It's not easy being Geen. Maybe he can help.