Socnorb11 wrote:
If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.
I don't agree, but I can see why people think this way.
I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?
Socnorb11 wrote:
If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.
I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?
First I would never speak for anyone else, most of all Doc. But I think there are a ton of men and women out there who don't want to be married and enjoy being single. That doesn't mean they aren't available if the right person came along. People who are in their 20's are just in a different place in life than people in their 30's, 40's etc. It may be hard to find things of shared interest, and in that case the only thing you may have in common is sex so you take it for what it is and move along enjoying the trip while you go. The reason they may still be single is simply because their paths haven't crossed with the person they are meant to be with, not because they are unfit or not worth the time of day. Your statement made a sweeping generalization and it sounded like if your over 35 and single your a one-toothed slob. I don't agree with that, that was my point. You have to remember too though that I am coming off a VERY fresh divorce (like this week) and my views are tempered by that. I believe in marriage and love and think that it is a miracle that any two people find each other, but still hope that this happens for myself and anyone else who is looking for that. I see what your saying, I just disagree. Of course, this is all just my opinion and nothing more.
Socnorb11 wrote:
If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.
I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?
First I would never speak for anyone else, most of all Doc. But I think there are a ton of men and women out there who don't want to be married and enjoy being single. That doesn't mean they aren't available if the right person came along. People who are in their 20's are just in a different place in life than people in their 30's, 40's etc. It may be hard to find things of shared interest, and in that case the only thing you may have in common is sex so you take it for what it is and move along enjoying the trip while you go. The reason they may still be single is simply because their paths haven't crossed with the person they are meant to be with, not because they are unfit or not worth the time of day. Your statement made a sweeping generalization and it sounded like if your over 35 and single your a one-toothed slob. I don't agree with that, that was my point. You have to remember too though that I am coming off a VERY fresh divorce (like this week) and my views are tempered by that. I believe in marriage and love and think that it is a miracle that any two people find each other, but still hope that this happens for myself and anyone else who is looking for that. I see what your saying, I just disagree. Of course, this is all just my opinion and nothing more.
I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.
Socnorb11 wrote:
If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.
I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?
First I would never speak for anyone else, most of all Doc. But I think there are a ton of men and women out there who don't want to be married and enjoy being single. That doesn't mean they aren't available if the right person came along. People who are in their 20's are just in a different place in life than people in their 30's, 40's etc. It may be hard to find things of shared interest, and in that case the only thing you may have in common is sex so you take it for what it is and move along enjoying the trip while you go. The reason they may still be single is simply because their paths haven't crossed with the person they are meant to be with, not because they are unfit or not worth the time of day. Your statement made a sweeping generalization and it sounded like if your over 35 and single your a one-toothed slob. I don't agree with that, that was my point. You have to remember too though that I am coming off a VERY fresh divorce (like this week) and my views are tempered by that. I believe in marriage and love and think that it is a miracle that any two people find each other, but still hope that this happens for myself and anyone else who is looking for that. I see what your saying, I just disagree. Of course, this is all just my opinion and nothing more.
I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.
Well, here's the thing: that bright, handsome, successful man (or woman) might be taken by the time s/he is 35. But they might be single again by the time they're 36. People get married later and later. Yeah, successful, fun hotties are likely to be taken. But they're also likely to become single again at some point, either by breakup or divorce or what have you.
Socnorb11 wrote:
If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.
I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?
First I would never speak for anyone else, most of all Doc. But I think there are a ton of men and women out there who don't want to be married and enjoy being single. That doesn't mean they aren't available if the right person came along. People who are in their 20's are just in a different place in life than people in their 30's, 40's etc. It may be hard to find things of shared interest, and in that case the only thing you may have in common is sex so you take it for what it is and move along enjoying the trip while you go. The reason they may still be single is simply because their paths haven't crossed with the person they are meant to be with, not because they are unfit or not worth the time of day. Your statement made a sweeping generalization and it sounded like if your over 35 and single your a one-toothed slob. I don't agree with that, that was my point. You have to remember too though that I am coming off a VERY fresh divorce (like this week) and my views are tempered by that. I believe in marriage and love and think that it is a miracle that any two people find each other, but still hope that this happens for myself and anyone else who is looking for that. I see what your saying, I just disagree. Of course, this is all just my opinion and nothing more.
I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.
Well, here's the thing: that bright, handsome, successful man (or woman) might be taken by the time s/he is 35. But they might be single again by the time they're 36. People get married later and later. Yeah, successful, fun hotties are likely to be taken. But they're also likely to become single again at some point, either by breakup or divorce or what have you.
It's definitely possible. So why can't doc find one of them?
If a person is divorced, they're probably divorced for a reason, and maybe shouldn't be looking for a serious relationship anyway. I would include myself in this category.
Socnorb11 wrote:
I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.
Well, here's the thing: that bright, handsome, successful man (or woman) might be taken by the time s/he is 35. But they might be single again by the time they're 36. People get married later and later. Yeah, successful, fun hotties are likely to be taken. But they're also likely to become single again at some point, either by breakup or divorce or what have you.
At the risk of sounding like a hopelessly romantic idiot, I truly believe there is someone for everyone and maybe they just have crossed paths yet. That doesn't mean anyone has set their sights to high, it just means they haven't met yet. Plus, don't forget beauty is in the eye of the beholder, fit and handsome to one person isn't always the same for the next person. I would be much more attracted to a man who makes me laugh and is a good companion than a good looking guy. People who are too smart and too good looking are scary.
Too rich I can handle, that doesn't scare me.
And the second quote is right on, can you see me raising my hand and jumping all over!
Socnorb11 wrote:
If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.
I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?
First I would never speak for anyone else, most of all Doc. But I think there are a ton of men and women out there who don't want to be married and enjoy being single. That doesn't mean they aren't available if the right person came along. People who are in their 20's are just in a different place in life than people in their 30's, 40's etc. It may be hard to find things of shared interest, and in that case the only thing you may have in common is sex so you take it for what it is and move along enjoying the trip while you go. The reason they may still be single is simply because their paths haven't crossed with the person they are meant to be with, not because they are unfit or not worth the time of day. Your statement made a sweeping generalization and it sounded like if your over 35 and single your a one-toothed slob. I don't agree with that, that was my point. You have to remember too though that I am coming off a VERY fresh divorce (like this week) and my views are tempered by that. I believe in marriage and love and think that it is a miracle that any two people find each other, but still hope that this happens for myself and anyone else who is looking for that. I see what your saying, I just disagree. Of course, this is all just my opinion and nothing more.
I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.
Well, here's the thing: that bright, handsome, successful man (or woman) might be taken by the time s/he is 35. But they might be single again by the time they're 36. People get married later and later. Yeah, successful, fun hotties are likely to be taken. But they're also likely to become single again at some point, either by breakup or divorce or what have you.
It's definitely possible. So why can't doc find one of them?
If a person is divorced, they're probably divorced for a reason, and maybe shouldn't be looking for a serious relationship anyway. I would include myself in this category.
I consider myself fairly bright, handsome enough, and pretty succesful in life, and I'm only about 5 years away from being a mid-30's unmarried man. At least, I'm anticipating that I will still be unmarried then. I don't want to have kids, and I'm in no rush to get officially "married". I'm just fine with LTR's for now.
That said, if things had worked out a bit differently with one particular girlfriend in the past, I would probably be married by my mid-30's. Or if things go swimmingly with my current gf or another woman, I could be married. But I don't think it's a valid statement to say that all good bachelors will be gobbled up by the time they're 35.
