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[docellis]

they are freaking adorable.

I've actually been described this way to my face on more than one occasion. And it was kind of frustrating.

I'm guessing you weren't both naked when you were told this. It changes the whole meaning.

[Richie Allen]

Are there many 35 year old men out at bars looking to "hook up"? I assume by that age they're looking at other avenues for meeting women. I may be wrong but I'd be surprised if there were more than 1 35 year old for every 10 25 year olds out there looking to nail your proverbial Docellises.

[cardsfansince82]

they are freaking adorable.

I've actually been described this way to my face on more than one occasion. And it was kind of frustrating.

I'm guessing you weren't both naked when you were told this. It changes the whole meaning.

TIT. But being told this in the first place kind of prevents the getting naked part from even happening.

[Richie Allen]

they are freaking adorable.

I've actually been described this way to my face on more than one occasion. And it was kind of frustrating.

I'm guessing you weren't both naked when you were told this. It changes the whole meaning.

TIT. But being told this in the first place kind of prevents the getting naked part from even happening.

I don't see why. Girls I know love adorable. Much more than strapping, for example.

[haltz]

I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.

you're probably raising one of Mystery's kids.

[Hungary Jack]

I wonder if people sometimes set their standards too high. I mean, seriously......... a bright, personable, fit, handsome man is probably going to be "spoken for" by the time he's 35, wouldn't you think? Or at least the vast majority of them will be (which is why doc can't find one). To me, it's really that simple.

you're probably raising one of Mystery's kids.

I have two very good guy friends, both divorced, ages 36 and 41, who fit that description. Great guys, incredibly fit, smart, educated...and I would not wish them on any reasonable woman.

[Cronos]

If a guy is 35, well-conditioned, and worth the time of day, there's no reason for him to still be single, so he won't be. The same applies to women.

I don't agree, but I can see why people think this way.

I could be wrong, but if I am, then what is YOUR answer to doc's original question? And why do so many women ask this same question?

I don't really have an answer to Doc's original post. I am not female, thus cannot accurately explain the female perspective.

However, to explain a little more about my position, not to pile on, but I don't see why a male who is single at 35 and well-adjusted is a paradox. He may have focused more on his career, he may have taken longer with schooling, or may simply be a shy person by nature. I would imagine there are quite a few single males at 35 in our country alone.

As for part of Doc's question as to whether guys are fit at that age or not, who knows. I don't profess to be fit in the least, and I'm a week away from 26. *shrugs*

[Richie Allen]

I would imagine there are quite a few single males at 35 in our country alone.

I agree, although as I mentioned earlier, I'm not sure how many of them still are comfortable with the bar scene at that age.

[Cronos]

I would imagine there are quite a few single males at 35 in our country alone.

I agree, although as I mentioned earlier, I'm not sure how many of them still are comfortable with the bar scene at that age.

Maybe I frequent the wrong bars, but I see a lot of people who seem to be single in their mid-30s still frequenting that scene.

If a person was comfortable going bar-seeking, so to speak, at a younger age and is still single at an older age, then I don't see why they wouldn't be comfortable at that point as long as they know where to go.

But then again it depends on what we're talking about, here. It's a far different perspective comparing one who has always been single up to 35 then one who has divorced and is again single at 35.

[docellis]

I would imagine there are quite a few single males at 35 in our country alone.

I agree, although as I mentioned earlier, I'm not sure how many of them still are comfortable with the bar scene at that age.

I don't know, I guess it depends on the kind of bar. I don't go to "clubs" and honestly, I don't go to bars very often (almost never). When I do go, it is usually to a pub type place.
And, for whatever it's worth, the first 2 guys who asked for my number or approached me that night were 36+.