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MrCrowesGarden wrote:
omaha_red wrote:
MrCrowesGarden wrote:++

Being exceptionally polite also helps you get free stuff. When I got my lunch today, the cashier/manager apparently felt bad because he thought he was taking an inordinate amount of time (not really the case though--the group in front of him had a big order and paid with cash that took some time to sort).

Basically, just by saying "Take your time, it's no rush," I got a free iced tea. I know that's not a lot, but I felt appreciated and will give them repeat business.
where'd you go? Bronco Burger? i love Bronco Burger
Pepperjax Grill. So good...
oh hell yeah it is.. i crave that place.. in fact..
i may go there tonight.. thanks my good omaha buddy..

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What is this PepperJax grill to which you speak?

As for the rant, I approve. Why is it ever ok to just be downright rude. Believe me, I have a chip on my shoulder, but I'm exceptionally polite to strangers. It's the people I'm supposed to love that get all my rage :x

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phinstd wrote:What is this PepperJax grill to which you speak?
pepperjax

the best hangover food ever

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omaha_red wrote:
phinstd wrote:What is this PepperJax grill to which you speak?
pepperjax

the best hangover food ever

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oh my word

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TabascoElvis wrote:
omaha_red wrote:
phinstd wrote:What is this PepperJax grill to which you speak?
pepperjax

the best hangover food ever

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oh my word
i've never been to philly and i'm assuming that's where they're the best..
but give me a pepperjax philly and i'm happy for the rest of the day..

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wart57 wrote:they[explitive] you in the drive through!
I didn't know you could order that.

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TabascoElvis wrote:
omaha_red wrote:
phinstd wrote:What is this PepperJax grill to which you speak?
pepperjax

the best hangover food ever

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oh my word
We all know the sandwich you actually get looks absolutely NOTHING like that.

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ghostrunner wrote:Whoa, whoa, whoa...

Maddash went through a drive-thru.


And this is a lame rant. I say "that's it" all the time at the drive thru. It signifies that the order is finished and I'd like to not be asked if I'd like new product X to go with it. Emphasizing NO is totally cool. What good does it do to have them mess it up and waste everyone's time? And getting worked up over "i need?" Come on. You do need food. Maybe not in that form, but since you're hungry and in a drive thru, I'll allow it.
McDonalds, too. I had a craving, what can I say.

And it's just a mater of speaking to someone like they weren't a machine. There's really no need to be so clinical when ordering food. I mean, there's an actual human being on the other end.

There's just a ton of underlying meaning in the words we choose, how we say them, who we say them too... At the root of it, we're using language to persuade people to make choices that we want. So, for me, "need" is a somewhat aggressive word. There's an underlying agitation when you use "need" in a drive-thru. Almost threat like - "if you don't give me this item that I need, there are going to be consequences". And then you add on the halting use of words like NO. You're implying that you don't trust the person on the other end. And you cap off the conversation by preventing the other person from speaking to you - by ending with "that's IT" you're taking command of the conversation and saying I dictate what gets said, not you.

This is essentially how people interact with each other - lots of subtly, lots of things that go unnoticed on the surface but mean something in the subconscious. And it just boils down to treating people - through language - with the respect they deserve. I mean, while a perfectly effective statement in the technical sense, you'd never ask to see someones phone by saying "I need to see that, give it to me". The whole dynamic of the interaction would change and you'd probably never actually get to see the phone.

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cardinalkarp wrote:
TabascoElvis wrote:
omaha_red wrote:
phinstd wrote:What is this PepperJax grill to which you speak?
pepperjax

the best hangover food ever

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oh my word
We all know the sandwich you actually get looks absolutely NOTHING like that.
you know what.. not quite the case at this place.. if you eat there
they pretty much look just like that.. i don't get the peppers and onions though

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I completely understand what you've been saying, there's no point in being rude to the drive through person (and I never am) but this comment got me...
You're implying that you don't trust the person on the other end
I would say that when going through the drive through there's a 25% chance they get your order wrong.

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