Don't tell me to be honest

[AdmiralKird]

Not to be a jerk but the whole time I've kinda gotten the impression that you're a bit slutty yourself.

Without a doubt, but that's not what I'm looking for in a girl.

That's pretty messed up.

I don't see why that's messed up.

You say that you would look down on a girl for sleeping with you on a first date, yet apparently that is just what you are trying to do. "I can't believe you slept with me, you must be a slut!" Is that just hypocrisy or some kind of self-loathing?

It's hypocrisy I suppose. I'm not even looking down on her. That's just not the type of person I want to date anymore. I don't know why that's messed up.

I think its because you're a slut and you don't want to get any.

[G. Keenan]

Another charming thing people do when you are trying to tell them you don't want to go out again? Try and argue that NO, the two of you DO have so much in common and SHOULD continue going out.
Listing the things you have in common and trying to talk you out of your decision is not any fun for the person who is trying to be nice and NOT say all the real reasons you don't want to go out again.

So you're saying that arguing and pleading with someone that you really DO have chemistry is a bad plan?



/back to the drawing board

Hahahaha.

WHY WON'T YOU JUST LET ME LOVE YOU!?

[Spider John]

I once had a girl I barely knew come on to me very strong. A few days after the deed was done, she told me she couldn't understand why I wouldn't ask her out. I didn't tell her the reason, but there's something about a girl who is that forward that didn't appeal to me as the type I would like to date. If she had just expressed an interest in me and acted like someone I would like to get to know, I probably would have dated her.

[cardinalkarp]

Not to be a jerk but the whole time I've kinda gotten the impression that you're a bit slutty yourself.

Without a doubt, but that's not what I'm looking for in a girl.

That's pretty messed up.

I don't see why that's messed up.

You say that you would look down on a girl for sleeping with you on a first date, yet apparently that is just what you are trying to do. "I can't believe you slept with me, you must be a slut!" Is that just hypocrisy or some kind of self-loathing?

It's hypocrisy I suppose. I'm not even looking down on her. That's just not the type of person I want to date anymore. I don't know why that's messed up.

Its messed up because it seems like most of the stories you tell your main goal is to get the girl in bed. Then when that said girl sleeps w/ you, you deem her as not worthy to date because she did exactly what you set out to do.

[phins]

Not to be a jerk but the whole time I've kinda gotten the impression that you're a bit slutty yourself.

Without a doubt, but that's not what I'm looking for in a girl.

That's pretty messed up.

I don't see why that's messed up.

You say that you would look down on a girl for sleeping with you on a first date, yet apparently that is just what you are trying to do. "I can't believe you slept with me, you must be a slut!" Is that just hypocrisy or some kind of self-loathing?

It's hypocrisy I suppose. I'm not even looking down on her. That's just not the type of person I want to date anymore. I don't know why that's messed up.

Its messed up because it seems like most of the stories you tell your main goal is to get the girl in bed. Then when that said girl sleeps w/ you, you deem her as not worthy to date because she did exactly what you set out to do.

How is it hard to understand the chase is the fun part? If you let me catch you before I've become interested in the rest of you as well, there is nothing left to keep my attention.

It is most certainly a game, and we play it without even realizing it usually. I always tell my female friends to make whomever they are dating wait at least a few months, if you do, you'll weed out the guys like myself and Cake, and find guys who are in it for more than the game. Once a girl does that, and makes you be interested in her for more than sex, it seems to open up other doors for me.

I know, I know. I'm living up to every stereotype you can think of for men, but with me, it's true.

[TimeForGuinness]

GRB: We talk baseball...and help manwhores realize their inner soul.

[JL21]

GRB: We talk baseball...and help manwhores realize their inner soul.

A tear just came to my eye.

[cardinalkarp]

How is it hard to understand the chase is the fun part? If you let me catch you before I've become interested in the rest of you as well, there is nothing left to keep my attention.

That's pretty shallow. Do you not have any self control at all? If you think you may be interested in a girl that you've just met, can you not control yourself enough to not have sex w/ her even if the offers possibly on the table (and I'm sure much of it is fueled by alcohol). If not having sex right away is what it takes for you to find out if there could be something more wouldn't you simply refrain from having sex w/ her right away?

[JCShutout]

In my experience (which is much less than yours admittedly), I've found I attract people who are similar to me, and who are looking for something similar.

So if you want a girl who will get to know you before she sleeps with you, be the guy who gets to know the girl before he sleeps with her. Become the person you're trying to attract. You'll weed out the ones you don't like more quickly. JMHO

[cardinalkarp]

In my experience (which is much less than yours admittedly), I've found I attract people who are similar to me, and who are looking for something similar.

So if you want a girl who will get to know you before she sleeps with you, be the guy who gets to know the girl before he sleeps with her. Become the person you're trying to attract. You'll weed out the ones you don't like more quickly. JMHO

Sounds like we pretty much have the same opinion on the subject. We just said it a little differently.