Rave: Spending the day with Dad

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Re: Rave: Spending the day with Dad

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docellis wrote:My dad is still the most important man in my life. But he is the kind of person you can't buy anything for (he has it if he wants it) and you can't impress him with much. All he wants is time or hand written cards/letters. And I suck at those things. I need to make spending time with him a bigger priority. When he loses his mind (which he will, he has early on set dementia, but is remarkably symptom free) I won't be able to go back in time and "make time".
By the way, doc, my mother has dementia, but that diagnosis is so broad that it covers any decline in mental ability, including very small declines. For instance, my mother still remembers me and my family quite well, and remembers what clothes I've taken home to wash for her. On the other hand, she can't remember whether she's introduced me to staff, so she does that all the time. She has lost adequate awareness of temperature, so always feels cold and tries to dress in layers, no matter whether it's summer or winter. Occasionally something weird will happen, such as when she points to a family picture and asks who the familiar man is, and I explain that it's my father. Next time I visit, of course she remembers who it is.

I think dementia just refers to some kind of decline in mental ability, but it doesn't mean that that person will lose all awareness or memory.

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Re: Rave: Spending the day with Dad

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Diddy wrote:There are times when working with my dad drives me absolutely bat [expletive] crazy. It is also a strain on my relationship with my wife, that's more of a step mom issue though. But I can't immagine not seeing and working with him in a daily basis. He's lived longer then any male in our family in along time. Today's his 68th bday and my grandpa only made it to 63, longer then the mid fifties most in our family make it to. In the past year or so there have been quite a few healthy men dads age or younger that have had sudden heart attacks and died. That scares the crap out of me.
This is how I feel. Since joining the farm my Dad can sometimes drive me nuts, but still there is something really cool about working with him. his health has been poor for a few years now. Part of it self inflicted by bad eating and exercise habits but part of it just working on a farm his whole life catching up to him. I'm so afraid of someday going to the farm and him not being there.

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