Rant: Flirting

[Spider John]

Cronos, I hated the whole flirting/read between the lines interaction with women when I was single, so I understand where you're coming from.

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

If you don't like it, don't do it. That's my advice. There's no need to.

[Cronos]

I don't really understand how anyone can dislike flirting. I mean, if you don't like it, don't do it. Eventually a girl will come up to you and make it obvious. If you don't like the "games" don't play them

Somebody got it; this thread wasn't even really about the thread from the other night or my Aaron Milesesque talent in this area of life, it was about the games that you have to play. I hate them. It can drive a person mad because you never really know what they mean when they say certain things.

The whole reason I posted this thread was that I was coming back from the new student orientation for my grad school yesterday and my roommate and I walked back with some ladies also in the program and we were talking a lot the entire way back, even on the train. And it reminded me of various situations where I've talked and carried on and had a good time with various ladies, but then by the end of the night I have some of my other friends telling me: "WTF, man? She wanted you. Why didn't you say anything?" and I had no clue.

About playing the games or not, I used to feel the same way but I have a couple of female friends tell me, in confidence, that you pretty much have to play them. I would say your situation is a good example of when you don't have to, AWCB, and congrats to you for it. From what I've been told and from my own experiences, I would say that doesn't often happen.

It's immensely frustrating. I can't play those games and I feel like I should be able to do so.

[TimeForGuinness]

The whole reason I posted this thread was that I was coming back from the new student orientation for my grad school yesterday and my roommate and I walked back with some ladies also in the program and we were talking a lot the entire way back, even on the train. And it reminded me of various situations where I've talked and carried on and had a good time with various ladies, but then by the end of the night I have some of my other friends telling me: "WTF, man? She wanted you. Why didn't you say anything?" and I had no clue.

I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me.

Ladies, if you want me...just grab my junk and pull me into a closet.

[JCShutout]

The whole reason I posted this thread was that I was coming back from the new student orientation for my grad school yesterday and my roommate and I walked back with some ladies also in the program and we were talking a lot the entire way back, even on the train. And it reminded me of various situations where I've talked and carried on and had a good time with various ladies, but then by the end of the night I have some of my other friends telling me: "WTF, man? She wanted you. Why didn't you say anything?" and I had no clue.

I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me.

Ladies, if you want me...just grab my junk and pull me into a closet.

++ Happened to all of us. Hell, it still does for me. Difference is, I just always, ALWAYS go for it now, even if I'm not sure. If we both seem to be enjoying ourselves I make a move. Done. No game because I'm just being myself.

[phins]

Way more, try tennis skirts with no panties.....

This is true, I used to work in the dairy section of Wal-Mart one summer. My co-worker and I discovered that when the metal at the bottom of the milk door was shiny, we could see up girls skirts if they stood a certain way.

Let's just say, cleaning the metal when we got to work was the first task of the day!

[tothebeach08]

Flirting is flirting, it is what it is. It's meant to be fun, kind of a turn-on. Don't you think most times if someone is not interested they will let you know in a nice way, not mock you. I mean where is all this mocking you guys are talking about. As long as you don't come on like some swinging single from the 70's, or like that guy Doc knows who says he has never been turned down for sex, the majority of people aren't going to mock each other because we've all be there and we all know it.

What I hate are the high school head games that come later. This is where guys drive the game, or at least think they do. You know, that whole not calling BS - as women, we just have to think like this....whatever dude, you served your purpose and move on down the line.

[Cronos]

Flirting is flirting, it is what it is. It's meant to be fun, kind of a turn-on. Don't you think most times if someone is not interested they will let you know in a nice way, not mock you. I mean where is all this mocking you guys are talking about.

When I mean mocking I mean when females pretend to be interested and make guys think they are as a way of manipulating, I guess tease is a better term. I use the term "Mock", though.

Having that kind of thing done to me or to guys I care about just makes me angry. A close friend of mine had the same thing done to him for about four months back in our senior year of college by this messed up girl. I still haven't really forgiven her over it even though I haven't had any contact with her in years.

[phins]

Beach, in my experience, if you call the girl too much, too soon, you come off as needy and they bolt.

So now, I act like I don't care that much, but I'm interested in keeping it going, and girls eat that stuff up. I don't like waiting to call, I don't enjoy not talking to them more, but it's what has to be done to keep things going.

Weird the way we do things as a society without even realizing it. I always say I don't like to play games, but in reality, up until my latest and greatest, I've played them without even thinking about it.

[Jocephus]

i gotta agree with the folks who say "[expletive] it".

thats really the best advice...just be yourself, have fun, dont think about things too much.